Sunday, November 18, 2007

Some good advice about BDSM

This was posted on an S&M dating website. Don't ask me how I got it. ;)

"As a submissive, i do not get much email from other submissives or many submissives viewing my page. However, if you are a submissive and you come across this, read on, because there are some things to beware of in the S&M scene that have recently come to my attention.

"BDSM is supposed to be Safe, Sane, and Consensual. That means first and foremost, no matter HOW BADLY you want your punishment, whatever it may be, it must NOT do things to you that CANNOT BE REPEATED because they CANNOT BE HEALED. ANY situation that requires medical expertise to carry out, for instance, MUST only be carried out by licensed medical personnel. That includes any kind of amputation, castration, surgery, or other forms of extreme injurious procedure with PERMANENT results. Other examples of extremely dangerous play you should not entrust to ANYONE without knowing them, knowing they have expertise, and having an ongoing and established Safe Sane Consensual relationship with them first include: Asphyxiation, Hanging, Branding, Burning, Knife play, Crucifixion, Ice Bath, Starvation, Cattle Prods, or any other play that obviously draws blood, stops breathing for over 30 seconds, or subjects the body to extreme temperature, extreme trauma or a current of electricity. These things are DANGEROUS and can END YOUR LIFE if done improperly or by persons with MALICE towards you!!!

Remember it is up to you first to save your own life. If you entrust your life to some person you met in a bar because you were horny and itching to play, you can wind up DEAD or WORSE. Remember your rights as a person -- you ALWAYS have the RIGHT to say no, and at the first sign that someone you don't know won't respect your rights, GET AWAY FROM THAT PERSON. You do not want to wind up in a situation where you will have to be rescued by your friends or the police from some black hole where they can't even find you. IT DOES HAPPEN. Play it safe!!!

Remember, Safe means Play with concern for and preservation of your Well-Being, Sane means Play that is Reasonable and within tolerances and Limits of the Submissive as well as the Dominant, and Consensual means both Submissive and Dominant are in a CONTINUAL state of mutual agreement AND understanding about the play scene and the relationship. Remember also that the less you know the other person, the less likely you will have a Safe, Sane, Consensual or even Pleasurable Scene."

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